I’ve been hearing this “follow your heart” stuff a lot lately. “Your heart is on the left but it’s always right;” “Let your heart lead the way;” “In a conflict between the heart and the brain, follow your heart…”
Blah. Blah. Blah.
And all I could think when I would see that stuff? What a load of crap! Because, frankly speaking, “following my heart” isn’t exactly an option these days. Following my heart would just lead me to where I’m not wanted. You know? Maybe that silly saying just doesn’t apply to someone like me – someone whose heart gets her in trouble A LOT. And it most definitely doesn’t apply to my current situation, that’s for sure.
Now, this? This is more my style:
Ya know? Ya feel me?
But, alas. As what usually tends to happen when I think too much – somehow in the past few days, I’ve started thinking about this whole “follow your heart” mess in a different light.
Something that my co-worker has been known to say many times since I’ve known her is that the opposite of love is not hate, as you would normally think. It’s apathy. Not caring. Deeming something (or someone) insignificant. That’s how you know when the love is gone.
Ohhhh! Well there ya go. There’s my problem. I’m not even capable of apathy. It’s not in my genetic makeup. I can’t remember a single thing or person that I’ve been able to feel apathetic towards. Ever. I friggin care about EVERYTHING. And that kinda sucks sometimes.
Or does it?
I remember my Mom telling me that for all of my life, even all the way back to when I was a toddler, I never knew a stranger. I would make friends with absolutely anyone and just talk their head off. My grandma said she used to be afraid that I would be kidnapped or something because of the simple fact that I would just go along with anyone and not sense any danger. Well, some things never change, I suppose. I’m still like that. I still have a big heart and I extend it to anyone and everyone at a moment’s notice, without sensing any danger. Is that a bad thing? Maybe. It does cause me to get hurt when I extend it to the wrong person at times, that’s for sure. But would I want to stop doing that? Would I want the alternative – a life without love and passion and kindness?
So, I guess maybe I’ve been looking at “follow your heart” in the wrong way. It doesn’t mean chase after the person you love who doesn’t want you. That’s ridiculous. No, I think it just means: be true to yourself. Follow your heart – the key to who you are. Find out who you are, what makes you you, and don’t let anyone or anything interfere with that.
Don’t let a painful event turn you into someone that you’re not. Keep living, keep loving (maybe just refocus it a little), and keep being you.
Ok. Now that I can do.
“Keep your heart above your head
And your eyes wide open
So this world can’t find a way to leave you cold
And know you’re not the only ship out on the ocean
Save your strength for things that you can change
Forget the ones you can’t
You gotta let it go.”
-Zac Brown Band lyrics