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From Lora’s Mouth to Your Heart: Words To Live By

“Correction does much, but encouragement does more.”
– Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

My friend Lora posted something on Facebook the other day, and I can’t shake it from my mind. It is powerful beyond what she even realizes, and I thought it deserved a broader audience. The next time you start to criticize something or someone, be it on social media or out in the “real” world, I want these words to be in your mind.

Maybe you’ll think twice.

Thank you, Lora, for passing along this wisdom and direction. It is appreciated.

Without further adieu…

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To the pregnant women on social media posting constant updates and belly pictures, I love seeing how excited you are to become a mommy. ‪#‎babybump‬

To the women posting “selfies”, thanks for letting young girls know that it’s okay to love yourself and to feel beautiful! ‪#‎youareenough‬

To the mom posting a million pictures of her kids, it makes my heart so happy to see parents so proud of and loving their babies! ‪#‎momlife‬

To the married couple constantly posting “sappy love posts” thank you for being a reminder to the next generation that all hope isn’t lost and happy marriages most definitely DO exist. ‪#‎livelaughlove‬

To the gym enthusiasts and healthy eaters posting constant gym selfies and progress pics, thanks, you show change is possible with motivation and determination. ‪#‎yourock‬

To the work from home moms who are constantly posting about their businesses, thank you, you are showing your kids you can do anything you put your heart and soul into. ‪#‎wahm‬

To the people who are constantly posting inspirational quotes, thank you, someone out there needed to hear those words you shared 🙌 ‪#‎encouragementisneverwrong‬

To the person posting pictures of your meals. You’re making me hungry. ‪#‎foodporn‬

Let’s stop being annoyed by everything and start lifting each other up! 😘 ‪

#‎behappy‬ ‪
#‎smile‬ ‪
#‎documentlife‬

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Now, let’s go out there and be good to each other, shall we?

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eliot

Criticism

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You know what’s really, really hard to do?

Not letting people’s opinions of you matter.

You know what’s even harder than that?

Not letting people’s opinions of your work matter.  And by work, I mean my writing.

Now, granted, I don’t get paid to write.  (Well, I did once, but I don’t see that becoming a regular thing.)  But I honestly view writing as “work” in a way.  No, I don’t get a paycheck, but I do get compensation.  And that compensation lies in a feeling of accomplishment.  A deep knowing that I’m doing what I’m meant to do.  I don’t know if anything I have said thus far has made a difference to anyone else, but I know it has made a difference to me.  I have opened up; I have taken a chance; and I have bared myself for all the world to see.  Do you have any clue how hard that is to do?  It does get easier as time goes by, mind you.  But those early days of tossing around the idea in my mind to start a blog were so nerve-wracking.  Until you’ve done it, or done something similar, you can’t understand.  I remember my hands trembling each time I pressed that big blue “publish” button.  Because each time I pressed it, I was saying, “Here I am.  What do you think?”

Now, most people have answered that “What do you think?” question in a very positive way.  Including, as I briefly mentioned before, a panel of judges in the first writing contest I had ever entered.  But there has been one person who hasn’t seen it so favorably.

And isn’t it just crazy how one person’s negative voice can speak so much more loudly in your head than many others’ positive ones?

Why is that?  Why do we allow that to happen?

Sigh.

So, honestly, there’s really no point to this blog.  I’m just venting.  Like she says, I’m just “throwing together a bunch of whiney crap.”

But hey, it’s my blog, and I’ll whine if I want to.

Something I have always taught my kids is this: When someone hurts you, let them serve as a lesson to you about the kind of person that you don’t want to be.  I hope I have never, ever, made someone feel the way this girl has made me feel.  Thank you, unkind person, for providing such a glaring example of how not to treat your fellow human beings.

I’m so glad I’m not you.

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“Criticism really used to hurt me.  Most of these critics are usually frustrated artists and they criticize other people’s art because they can’t do it themselves.  It’s a really disgusting job.  They must feel horrible inside.”
– Rosanna Arquette