Ok. The half marathon is over. I have officially achieved the goal that has been in the back of my mind ever since I started running about a year ago. I put in the training. I put in the sweat. I put in the fear and worry. And now here I am. I did it. I’m a half marathoner!
Now what the heck do I do with myself??
I’m telling you, I was barely home from the race before I was doing an online search to try to find another one. This girl is hooked! Now that I’ve felt that euphoric feeling at the finish line, I want to feel it again and again and again. And I don’t just mean more half marathons. Yep, that’s right. I’m even looking into a full marathon. If I can do a half, I can do a full, right? Let’s do this! I’m stoked!
But……I have to be patient.
Sigh. The biggest dirty word in my vocabulary, and it starts with a “P.” Patience. Blech.
I have oftentimes made reference to how running and relationships have a lot in common. Especially for me. And I think this is going to be another good example. (And, as I’ve discovered since I’ve started blogging…this will probably ring true for a lot of you as well. I’ve never been more aware of how alike we all really are until I started this blog and got so much feedback from all of you about how you’ve identified with so many of the things I’ve said. Isn’t it nice to know we’re all in this together?)
So, I have often felt myself feeling this same feeling of euphoria at times during a relationship. You have a good night out together…a sweet, tender moment…a milestone of some sort, and suddenly, you start to get a little ahead of yourself.
“Look how well we look in that picture…we are PERFECT for each other!”
“Look what a good weekend we had…I want to spend every waking moment with him/her!”
“Look how much we enjoy being together…we should get married!”
I’m not the only one who has been guilty of these thoughts, and I know it. I have female friends. I’ve heard them echoed from them as well. Why the heck do we do that? Why do we get in such a hurry to push past the happy moments of “now” into what we think will be the happier moments of “tomorrow”?
Ya know? Just chill.
Bask in the moment. Enjoy it for a while. Enjoy this stage and celebrate this victory, this success, and don’t be in such a hurry to get to the next stage. Because you know something about that next stage? That next stage is hard. Getting to this point you’re at now wasn’t all that easy, remember? There were tough times where you thought you wouldn’t make it. Obstacles that almost stopped you. Outside influences that almost kept you from your goal. Am I talking about running or relationships here? What’s the difference really? Whether we’re talking about sore muscles and sweat in training, or awkward misunderstandings and arguments with dating, this same thing stands true. Each phase takes work. Hard work. And yes, the end result is rewarding and it is worth it. It’s wonderful. But there are no shortcuts.
So, rather than being in such a hurry to jump to the next phase, maybe it’s ok to hang out here for a while. The next phase will be there when you’re ready. In fact, the more time you decide to wait to start that next phase, the more prepared you’ll be.
And the more prepared you are, the more glorious the result.
“There are no shortcuts to any place worth going.”
– Beverly Sills