If you’re my Facebook friend, you knew this blog was coming.
If you’re not, let me catch you up.
Yesterday, a Christian lady in our small mountain community posted a status about a new Charlotte, North Carolina law that was passed Monday allowing transgender people to use the public bathroom that corresponds to their gender identity. This woman, who has repeatedly told the world in Facebook statuses, a self-published book, numerous selfies, and a multitude of scripture posts that she is a Christian and loves all, expressed her concern at this new ruling. She said she would no longer feel it would be safe to allow her children to use these bathrooms and that this new ruling “made her sick.” She said it “goes against all she believes is right and true.”
But oh, it didn’t end there. In fact, this was just the beginning.
Once the comments started rolling in from people, including me, who saw the hypocrisy and hurt in such a statement coming from someone who is supposed to be in support of love for all, this woman was quick to start deleting and blocking the naysayers and rewording and deleting some of her negative comments. She then went on to create a video selfie (which I want to post the link to soooo bad but those last few shreds of maturity are stopping me) showing her crying over the hurt and pain that standing for God was bringing about. To which, came numerous comments flooding in supporting her in her plight and remarking that they too were standing with her on God’s side.
[Maturity, Melissa. Maturity.]
Alrighty then. Let’s discuss, shall we?
First and foremost, as someone I greatly admire was quick to point out, I’ve yet to see the parts in the Bible about public restrooms. I mean, seriously. I try and try to be just a smidge educated before I start mouthing off about something but, for the life of me, I’ve scoured that thing and I simply cannot find it. So, I’m just not quite sure how these people know how their God feels about men and women using each other’s bathrooms. This has become such a mystery to me. But, hey, surely such devoted Christ followers wouldn’t make up stuff from the Bible just to support their own ignorance-based fears, would they?
So, let’s assume it’s in there. (You know, somewhere around all that “judge not” silliness.) And let’s assume that this woman is truly standing up for her Lord and is bearing the brunt of such a burden. Okidoke, Got it.
So, video selfie and numerous photo selfies later, here we are. And the comments are still rolling in. Now, even though this woman managed to block every member of my family from her Facebook page (as Jesus would have her do), I still have my ways of seeing the things that are posted. (Just chalk it up to my evil ways…muhaha). And in the past 24 hours, here are the things I’ve seen.
“Keep standing for God, you have a heart of gold and He knows it!”
“Thank God there are people like you that will stand up for what you believe in!”
“I’m so sorry someone hurt you.”
“Exactly what I was thinking. This is a fruitcake nation.”
(My favorite up there was how sorry someone was that she was hurt. That SHE was hurt?? Seriously? She describes a fairly significant portion of our population as people who “make her sick” and whom she fears will harm her children because of a condition that they have no control over and yet she is the one that’s hurt? Give me a friggin break.)
But, fruitcake nation aside, another of the commenters really tickled me. Let me give you a little backstory.
About 5 minutes before this guy got married, he made out with me. Yup, that’s right. It was before I met Richard, of course, and I could make all kinds of excuses for the way things went down, but the facts are the facts. His Facebook and public persona showed the world how happy he was with the love of his life, while his private self was trying to get in my pants.
And now where is he?
Commenting on this status about how horrible this world is and how awful it is that this poor woman is being faced with such adversity in her plight for God.
Excuse me while I THROW UP ALL OVER MY KEYBOARD.
For the love of God, can we stop with the hypocrisy? I mean, seriously, people. You’re not perfect. I’m not perfect. The city of Charlotte isn’t perfect. Transgender people aren’t perfect. We all make mistakes and we all SUCK. Can we please, please, stop judging people on things they have no control over?
Sure, I get it. I’m partly hypocritical because I’m ranting on this post about this Christian woman and her non-Christian ways, but do you see the difference here? Yes, I’m being judgmental and yes, I’m being snarky and bitchy. But it’s because of this woman’s personality. I don’t like her. I think she’s a fraud and I think she’s leading thousands of people down a path that is making this world an ugly place filled with ignorance and intolerance of things they don’t understand. But I can do that. I’m human. I don’t claim to be Christ-like because I’m not. Yes, I do judge. But my judgment is based on how you ACT, not who you are.
There’s a big fat huge hairy difference. Got it?
I do not think this woman is doing God’s work and I pray that each and every one of you out there think twice before you blindly follow someone just because they say that’s what they’re doing. No matter how many scriptures they post, God said you’re going to know them by their fruits. What were the fruits of that post?
Hurt feelings. Exclusion. Rejection. Embarrassment.
Is that really what Jesus would do?
Hatred disguised as love is one of the most dangerous things there is in this world. It frightens the bejeebus out of me and makes me terrified for all the young people out there who are going through identity crises. The world is a scary place when you’re young, immature, and people who are supposed to be so “good” make you feel like a leper. Nothing but bad can come from that. Believe me when I tell you this.
Think for yourselves, people. Come on, THINK. It’s not that hard. It’s really not. If you don’t like someone because of how they act, that’s cool. You’re human. Don’t like them. But if you don’t like someone because of who they are and if you think they don’t deserve the same rights as you because of things that are beyond their control, I think you might want to recheck that religion thing you’re basing your beliefs on.
I think you might have screwed up somewhere. And the God I know does not want you using his name to promote your selfish agenda.
Don’t preach about love. Love. It’s a verb. Do it.
And that’s all I have to say.
“A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another.”
– Jesus Christ
I cringed when I saw the post..
It felt like a weapon; I wanted to gather the people it was aimed at up and protect them from it.
As it was .. All I could do was babble some crap about perfect love and fear or something.
What you said needed saying, thank you for saying it.
Thank you, Nancy. I wish I knew how to be kinder with my words, but I just get so angry on behalf of all the people who would see that post and feel so badly about themselves over something they have no control over. Thank you for understanding where I’m coming from.
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Beautifully put and thanks to you, I can now be much more eloquent when ‘defending’ my judgyness. Judging an action is wholly different from judging a person based upon sex, skin color, orientation etc. Thank you for such a well-written piece.
Thanks for your support.
a man is a man a woman is a woman you are born that way