Dear Commenters:

If some of you are wondering why your comments on my last blog are still saying that are “awaiting moderation,” I would like to explain what and why that is.

What this means is that I, as the blog site operator, can “moderate” what comments are allowed and which ones aren’t. And why are you receiving this message?  Here’s why.

I’m sick of it.

I truly am. I am sick of the bashing of a CHILD.

Now, I allowed many comments to go through that are against what I’m saying. That is fine…this is a highly controversial issue and I understand that many will not agree with me. You are welcome to your opinions, just as I am welcome to mine. Childhood sports is apparently a hot topic – a much hotter topic than I myself even realized. This blog has blown up. Am I sorry for that? Absolutely not. It’s a topic that needed to be discussed. Too many people sweep things under the rug and hope it goes away. I am not one of those people.

However, the comments from the people who actually know the parties involved – those are the ones that are really upsetting me. Why is that? Because they mention my son specifically. And the knowledge they have (or think they have) is only knowledge that would come within the school. Meaning: these are comments from faculty and staff of the high school.  Comments that are BASHING a student.

I have a message for you. I know you used “fake names” and “anonymous” for most of your messages.  But there’s this wee little thing about the WordPress site that you might not be aware of.  When I receive an anonymous message, I also receive this:


To temporarily protect whichever staff member this one happened to be, I have blackened out your info. But I have it. I have your email address.  Oh, and in case it’s a fake email address, I also have your computer IP address.  Don’t know what that is?  It’s a little number that will track your message right back to your computer. YOUR computer.

And you know what else I have?  Techie friends. They’re pretty handy…you should get some of those.

I feel certain that the Board of Education for the State of Virginia would be thrilled to know what kind of staff members it has working at Grayson County High School. I’m sure they’d love to know that the staff is calling attention to one child’s past, and threatening to list the info (some true, some not) on a public, social forum.

And I can’t wait to tell them.

For those of you who have already commented – consider yourself informed.  For those who want to comment in the future in the same manner – heed my warning.

I’m sick of it.

But thank you for reminding me why this needs to be done. The corruption in this school is sickening.


“The fight for justice against corruption is never easy. It never has been and never will be. It exacts a toll on our self, our families, our friends, and especially our children. In the end, I believe, as in my case, the price we pay is well worth holding on to our dignity.”
– Frank Serpico

7 responses »

  1. Melissa I hope you take this all the way. Faculty and staff should NEVER cross the line that has been crossed here. Those people do not need to be working with children period! It is a shame that the people involved cannot stand on the side of the child involved, take in to consideration that maybe, just maybe, this coach needs to be reprimanded for what he has done not only to your son but to the other kids involved. Sadly, for a coach, it is all about winning and nothing about building up the kids, teaching them respect and sportsmanship and how to play a game. I am so thankful that I have one left in school and only on semester and one more year after that. I am so ready for my son to move into the adult college system and be respected for who he is and what he can do. I already have one son there and he is a different young man since leaving the high school. The high school years should be the best years of their lives but ultimately, because of faculty and staff that could care less about our childrens best interests, they are years to wish away. Its heartbreaking.
    Thanks for doing what you do girl! You go!!!!

  2. I seriously applaud you. I hope you go as far with this as you possibly can. Bless you for doing this. Really. These posts have gotten so much attention and even if you don’t get the outcome in the end you want, you have ruffled their feathers and that is something to be proud of.

  3. I believe that you are justified in what you believe, I believe everyone has a right to play in the sport he or she likes. I believe every male or female has a right to play in every game that they have suited up for be it only 5 minutes or the whole game. this way everyone gets an opportunity to play and learn to excel in the sport they enjoy doing.

  4. AWWWW SNAP! As someone who just completed student teaching and has had it drilled into her head for the past 4 years about confidentiality regarding students, this would be grounds for termination. I would go all the way up the food chain with this one, chickadee!

  5. Pingback: Open Letter to the Grayson County School Board | Missyspublicjunk

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