“Why can’t you just get over it?”
“What’s the big deal? You ‘lost.’ Move on.”
“Can’t we all just get along?”
“Give him a chance.”
“This is Sally. Sally voted for Trump. This is Bob. Bob voted for Hillary. Sally and Bob are still friends. Be like Sally and Bob.”
Oh yes. I’ve heard them all.
And so have you.
And each time I hear them, I stop for just a second and consider it. I mean, I like peace. Peace is pretty cool. I like when people get along. I like when we work together and hold hands and move forward. I like to forgive. I like to “let it go.” Those things feel good. And they sound great.
Ah. But then I remember.
I will not get over this.
“Why won’t you let it go?”
Let me try to put this in terms you might understand. Let me show you my why.
I want you to picture this in your mind. A man grabs my 16-year-old daughter and holds a gun to her head. He threatens her. He tells her that the life that she has known is going to change. He makes fun of her friends, her family, her.
I stand by and watch.
I wonder how this happened. Where did this man come from? What did my daughter ever do to him? Why can’t I stop this? He’s too strong. He holds the gun – the power – and I have no idea what to do. I hate him. I hate him for what he’s doing to her. I hate him for instilling this fear into her. I pray that he won’t pull the trigger, but know deep down that even if he doesn’t, so much damage is already done. So much.
Then I notice he’s not alone.
Standing behind him, is you. No, you aren’t holding the gun to my daughter’s head. And hey, you maybe even don’t agree with him holding it there. You think he’s being a little too rough. You know he’s not really going to hurt her. He’s just saying all that stuff, he doesn’t mean it.
YOU HANDED HIM THE GUN.
The fear that this incoming administration has put into the hearts of so many in this country is UNFORGIVEABLE. And if you voted for it, you are to blame.
Are we really going to lose our insurance? Is the LGBTQ community really going to lose their rights? Are disabled children really going to lose protections within the school system? Is the black community really going to again be looked down upon as the “less thans”? Is there really going to be a wall built between us and our Mexican friends? Is our country really going to be besties with a dictator who has proven himself vile and evil? Are women really going to be treated as weak and unworthy of respect because our leader deems them so?
You know what? I don’t have those answers. I don’t know what’s going to happen.
But what I do know is this fear.
This fear is real. It’s debilitating.
And I know who is holding that gun.
And I know who handed to him.
Is he going to pull the trigger? I don’t know if he will or not. But, as for me, the damage is already done.
No, I won’t be getting over this any time soon.
I will remember.
I will remember.
And I will fight with the last breath I have in my body to ensure that no one else will ever be held under that gunpoint again.